He as just taken homophobia one step further to sexphobia which is equally irrational. If he only applied that fear or hate of sexual pleasure only to himself I might fell sorry for someone who avoids one of the central pleasures of life. But like homophobes wishes to impose what are nothing but his own personal moral code on to others. Such codes are relative.

He can't seem to accept a basic fact of life in 21st century America; if you are opposed to homosexuality your only option is to not sleep with someone of the same sex. I would add that if you are opposed to any sex at all your one and only option is to not have sex.

It is interesting that some people seem to be anti pleasure in other parts of life too. I see a similar attitude from those I call the food police.
That is those who choose to be vegan of vegetarian both of which are nothing but dietary choices. These are the people who will try to make you feel guilty eating something they choose not to eat. I was at a pot luck one time where we all made vegetarian dishes. I made spaghetti with a meatless red sauce, but the lack of meat was not enough for one self appointed food cop who lectured me about evils of the white flour in the pasta! I mention this just to point out that there is a sub culture out there that wants us to fell guilty about just about anything. They seem to be joyless souls who resent the idea of anybody having a good time. Sort of like former Senator Santorum wanting to reconsider the concept of the pursuit of happiness,

Brueke
<<<There is also socialization, many men... though less today than in the past... are socialized not to be feminine in any way, to hate or reject anything inside of them that might make them want to be feminine in any way as straight people. There are boys who'll get screamed at and called a sissy for failing to catch a ball by their fathers, or punished for playing with their sister and her doll collection by a father in panic that their boy might be a sissy. This doesn't just generate homophobia, but also perhaps a contempt towards femininity and hence women as well, even though they are supposed to find women attractive they can't help demean women with the kind of socialization they get if they are taught that to behave feminine is shameful for them. So when a man chooses freely and deliberately to behave in some ways, even if they are heterosexual, they may elicit a different kind of homophobia... one where one person is openly embracing and flaunting a side of themselves that the men around them have been taught to despise in themselves. This kind of homophobia is different from the kind of those who fear being raped by bubba. >>>

Holy shit!!! While I am somewhat offended at the assertion that homosexuality implies some sort of "feminine" quality, I do know the socialization of which you have written. I grew up in a small "ville" (Deweyville) that was made up of a combination of Baptists, Methodists and pentecostal people. "Coming out" was never an option for me or anyone else in this town. During my high school years I enjoyed more sexual encounters than the heterosexual lot.

I was raised by parents who taught hatred of blacks, Hispanics and homosexuals. this was upsetting as I learned by my second grade year of school that I liked boys better than girls. I had to endure the hatefilled rhetoric knowing that I was one of those people my parents hated. My father worked me and my brother half to death and any complaint was met with a fist to the mouth. The encounters I had with classmates in high school were with guys who boasted straightness and spoke openly against anything gay. Of course I had to stand with them for fear of being outed. I had family that were hard core KKK and they would kill me just as they killed one of the only black kids to attend our school.

My brother was molested at the age of 13 by a police officer who was kicked off the force and is now a bail bondsman. As a result of that my brother is EXTREMELY homophobic. He was forced to accept me as I came out late in life and he had no reason to suddenly hate me. He has made major strides in acceptance, but he still insists that my boyfriend and I not be open in our affection at his house or around his friends and we respect that.

The majority of sexual encounters I have had have been with so called "straight" guys. Personally I do not think there is any such thing as a true heterosexual. Because if a man has ever masturbated, he has effectively had sex with a man. Same thing goes for the women. Autoerotica is same sex gratification no matter how you slice it. To fear that is the most absurd thing, absent some traumatic event, I can think of.